• Tahlia Asinate

The Beauty Of Hindsight

I remember this time last year when I sat down to consider how I wanted this year to look. Like, everyone, I had no idea what this year actually had in store, so I set my goals as if we’d be living with usual circumstances.


Obviously, things played out differently — and as I’ve reflected on the year that’s was, I realised I’d learnt a lot about myself and goal setting in general. Things that I wouldn’t have considered a year ago, yet today I know are crucial in helping me set and ultimately achieve my goals.


So, what are these lessons? Let’s get into them …


  1. Keep Calm & Continue On — If you’re like me, you might have reviewed your goals from the past year and realised that for some while you’ve moved in the direction of them you haven’t achieved them entirely. If this is the case, it’s important to note that this doesn’t mean you’ve failed. If anything, take this a sign to reflect on the new information you have from pursuing your goal, and use it to identify what you now need to do to finalise that goal. Perhaps you will change up your deadline, or you may even shift up your plans — whichever it is, do what’s necessary to continue on but most importantly, don’t give up just because it hasn’t come into fruition yet. Use the lessons you’ve learnt to double down and streamline your activities to make your goals a reality.

  2. Stay Quiet About Your Goals — This one seems counterintuitive, yet it’s become one of the most important lessons I’ve learnt. Because, while on first glance, it might seem harmless, even productive, to share our goals with others, it can also have an inverse effect. Where in sharing our aims with others, we become less likely to go about achieving them. This is similar to the case of the person that’s all talk but no action. Where in sharing our goals, we feel as though we’ve already achieved them, making us less inclined to take action because talking about it feels just as good, if not better. Obviously, this isn’t the case for everyone. However, unless you’ve got a stellar track record of success’ I highly recommend keeping your goals to yourself until they’ve become your reality. Which at that point, your results will speak for themselves anyway.

  3. Be Ready To Change Who You Are — When it comes to setting and achieving goals, one of the most important things to understand is the change that will occur within you throughout this process. As who you are when you set your goals, and the you that achieves them will be two completely different people. Why this happens is because of the self-development process. Where in pursuing a goal, you learn and even unlearn new information. With this new knowledge, your thoughts, actions and even perception inevitably change, thus changing you. If anything, this is a positive thing as it's a natural effect of improving as an individual. Therefore, it's imperative to keep this awareness top of mind so you can be open to becoming the version of you that achieves your goals with ease.

With twenty-twenty quickly coming to an end, I recommend taking time to self reflect and identify what you want to accomplish both next year, and for the years ahead. At the end of the day, life is what we make of it, so why not take a few hours to design a life you want to experience.


Love,

Tahlia X


P.s. Now, I'd love to hear from you! What process do you use when setting and achieving your goals? Let me know in the comments below.