• Tahlia Asinate

3 Lessons I'm Glad I Learnt Before 30

As a teenager I believed that I knew everything there was to know, this continued until I took a break from alcohol at the age of twenty-three. When I made this decision, I didn’t realise how much my life would change, nor did I realise how much I had to learn.

Since that decision, my life has been full of experiments, ones that have helped me figure out who I am, what I like and the type of person I want to be. From these experiments, I've learnt a lot of lessons some of which have been positively life-changing.

So, without further ado, here are three lessons that I'm glad I learnt before thirty …

1. Don't Talk When You're Tired — Let’s face it we’re not ourselves when we’re tired and in this state, we usually say things that we don’t mean. In wanting to reduce this as much as possible I've found it best to do one of two things. To either keep quiet or to take a deep breath and say that I’m tired and would prefer to talk later. By being honest about how I feel I’m able to take some time for myself and come back to a discussion with a clear head and a proper perspective.

2. Self Care Isn’t Selfish — Many of us are taught that it’s important to put others' needs before our own, and while we should be kind and considerate, it’s also important to take care of yourself. As I continuously like to say, you can’t fill up another's cup if your glass is empty. Simply put, self-care isn’t selfish, it’s a necessity to help you be the best you, to allow you to rejuvenate, reflect and to show up as your best self.

3. Another Woman's Beauty Isn't The Absence Of Your Own — We are all beautiful in our own way and it’s important that we focus on appreciating our uniqueness. In moments of feeling insecure, disarm these thoughts by reminding yourself that you’re not in competition with any other women.

An extra thing I like to do is to either purposely smile at women who pass by me or to give them a compliment. Especially when it comes to compliments, most are remarkably surprised and especially grateful. And who knows, you might even make a new friend!

While this doesn’t even begin to scratch the surface of important lessons that have changed my life, I’ve found these three to be particularly useful especially as of late. They’ve kept sane, in my own lane and focused on being my best self.

Now, I want to hear from you! Have I missed any lessons? What's the one lesson you're glad you learnt early on in life? Let me know in the comments below or message me directly.


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