• Tahlia Asinate

Are They The One?

Naturally, we all want to find that special person, you know, the one. Nobody really tells you how to find them or what to look for, they simply say … When you know, you’ll know. Logically speaking, this is terrible advice. Yet, funnily enough, those who have found their person usually sing the same tune … Yes, including me. Subconsciously, I think I knew from the moment we started dating, yet I truly knew when he began holding me accountable. He showed me where I was self-sabotaging, he helped me appreciate myself. And while at first, he gave me the fish, over time he started teaching me to fish for myself. It was when he gave me the ultimatum to stop drinking alcohol, when he helped me identify my limiting beliefs and when he showed me how I was self-sabotaging. It was in those moments that I realised that he was the most perfect person for me. Nobody up until this point had shown me these things, well my Mum did in a sense … But who really listens to their parents? Yet, it was in those moments that I knew that he was something different, a complete rarity. He was self-sufficient, intelligent, endlessly optimistic, stern and confident, strong both mentally and physically. Truly, he was everything I never realised that I always wanted. Find yourself a spouse who complements and supports you and makes you better. — Ryan Holiday With his help, over the past five years, I’ve been able to shape and grow into the woman I am today. Not to become someone I’m not but to become the real me. The version of myself that I’ve always dreamt of becoming. And without him, I’m not sure it would’ve happened, at least not at such a young age and in such a small amount of time. Because of this experience, I truly believe that who you choose to be your significant other is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. This is a decision that can literally change your life, just as it did for me. Which is why it’s crucially important that when you choose to be in a relationship with someone, you do your due diligence and make an informed decision. Why? Because as Jim Rohn so eloquently put it, you are the average of the five people you spend the most time around. In most cases, your partner will be one of those people and you’ll most likely be spending a lot of time with them. This is why it’s so important to choose a person who will encourage you to be your best self. Who will celebrate the ups and hold your hand through the downs, all while remaining honest and supportive. When you find a person who does this … This is when you know you’ve found the right person for you, it's when you know you've found the one. Love, Tahlia X