• Tahlia Asinate

Lessons Best Learnt Sooner Rather Than Later

If you’ve ever reflected on choices you’ve made in the past, chances are you would have done some things differently. Yet, part of life is that we’re constantly learning, both from our own and others experiences. And while there are countless lessons we each learn, there tends to be a select few that are best learnt sooner rather than later.


Once learnt, these lessons have the ability to drastically alter one’s life. Because, while at first glance they may appear to be somewhat simple, they’re remarkably effective in helping one better navigate the world, and make better decisions.


Which then begs the question, what are these lessons we should learn as soon as possible? Well, let’s take a look at them …


How you speak to yourself matters — Our lives are a direct reflection of the stories we tell ourselves. These stories impact how we view the world, and how we perceive ourselves to be. These stories can build us up or tear us down which is why we must tell stories that serve us, our desires and our dreams.


In adjusting your self-talk, reaffirm your positive stories by taking actions that support those stories. Avoid speaking about yourself negatively, and in moments you catch yourself doing so, reframe your self-talk so it supports the person you want to be.


Don’t be a victim of negative self-talk. Remember, you are listening. — Bob Proctor


Think for yourself — Most know what to think, yet few know how to think for themselves. However, in a time of rampant censorship and misinformation, it’s imperative to do the latter. An easy way to do this is to question information and consider whether an alternative may be true.


Consider why people are sharing certain information, and whether or not they have an agenda for doing so. Do your own research before forming an opinion and concluding anything as fact. In doing so, you may find some of your longest-held beliefs challenged. However, this is a necessary part of independent thinking.


It’s you versus you — At the end of the day, the only person standing in your way is you. It’s you that procrastinates, believes your limiting beliefs, and justifies your excuses. Now, this doesn’t mean you’re destined for failure, only that you must overcome these to become the person you want to be.


While there will always be reasons as to why you can’t do something, it’s imperative to continuously look at alternatives. To change your patterns of behaviours, challenge your limiting beliefs, and question your excuses. Then, do what you know you should to achieve your desired outcomes.

If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self. — Napoleon Hill


Who to take advice from — Just because someone has advice to give, doesn’t mean you should always take it. Because, if someone hasn’t got experience or the results you’re after, it’s probably best to avoid their guidance.


When seeking or receiving advice, always consider whether you would trade places with that person in said area. If you would, listen with an open mind and take action accordingly. If not, disregard their advice and look to find someone more qualified.


The importance of the little things — Within each moment, there are countless things we can appreciate, both big and small. Yet, it’s usually the big moments that we’re most excited about. However, with time many come to realise that the little things in life are just as important as the big ones.


That although we often overlook them, they are just as significant as life’s big moments. Because, whether it’s a breeze on a hot day, the patter of rain as you drift to sleep, or time spent with loved ones. While each of these can be easily overlooked, they are in fact magnificent things we should be actively appreciating.


Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realise they were the big things. — Kurt Vonnegut


At the end of the day, life is a series of experiences and mistakes, ups and downs, and a multitude of learnings. These learnings shape our perceptions, influence our decisions, and ultimately become the reality we experience. In reading this, you might find these suggestions to be somewhat simplistic. Yet, it’s usually the simple lessons many often forget that prove to be the most important.


Love,

Tahlia X


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