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  • Tahlia Asinate

Mental Models That Changed My Life

Over the past five years, my life has changed remarkably. With one of the most significant changes, aside from quitting alcohol, being that I dropped out of university and dived into the world of self-education …

Upon entering this world, I quickly got caught up in trying to learn from every self-proclaimed guru that crossed my path. Something that cost me both a lot of time and money. As time went on, I came to realise this and began focusing on those teachers who were teaching from their own experience. And were actually implementing the messages that they shared.

In making this adjustment, I was not only able to learn from some of the greatest minds. But I was also able to hone in and focus on key mental models that would radically change my life.


What are some of these key mental models? Well, let's dive into them ...


  1. Talk Less Listen More — Having always been a talker, this one was quite hard for me to grasp. And it wasn't until my boyfriend continuously called me out on it, that I ultimately realised the importance of this. Now if you've ever had a conversation with someone who continuously interrupts you, you will probably understand the necessity of this mental model. Because far too often, people engage in conversations without actually listening to what the other person has to say. So, instead of focusing on what you have to say next, truly listen when others are speaking to you. As we can only hear what others are saying when we are are in the present moment and staying quiet. By doing this, you may soon find that you're better able to help others, able to learn more and you, like me, might quickly realise that you don't need to always have a response.

  2. Take A Long Term View — We live in a world where it's easy to get most of what we wish for within an instant, whether it's delivery food or products that we can have now and pay for later. And while it is sensational that we have access to technologies that allow for this, it has also led to many viewing delayed gratification as a negative thing. Yet what many fail to realise is that in most cases, that thing that makes you feel good now may have negative second and third-order consequences. Say, for example, health issues from eating junk food or financial issues from pay later services. Which is why we must consider the long term view of the decisions we make. This isn't to say to avoid the present moment, as this is equally as important. However, in doing so, be aware that the decisions you make now will also affect your later reality.

  3. Be Picky With Advice — For the best results, it's best to seek advice from those whose outcomes you want to emulate. Meaning that a person that doesn't have the results you want isn't qualified to give you advice, as they don't have the experience to speak from. So, instead of taking advice from anyone who gives it to you first look to see if the person's results are ones that you want. Even then listen to what the are saying and see if their music lines up with their words ... Do they embody their own teachings? Do they have the results you want? If the answer is yes to both of these then take on board the wisdom they share. Yet, if the answer is no to these questions don't take their advice on board.


While this doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of mental models that have helped change my life. I've found these to be remarkably useful, especially in terms of helping me know when to speak, who to take advice from and why it's important to take a long term view.


Love,

Tahlia X


Now, I want to hear from you! What's your favourite mental model? Do you have any to add to the list? Let me know in the comments below or message me directly.