• Tahlia Asinate

How Writing Makes You A Better Person

My first steps into the world of writing began late one night as I struggled to sleep. After hours of tossing and turning, I took myself to the desk and started putting thoughts to paper. An hour later, I felt clear-headed and relieved, eventually taking myself to bed and having the best night’s sleep that I’d had in ages.

From that moment forward, I started writing daily — whether a short journal entry or reflections on past experiences. If nothing else, it was therapeutic, and I surprisingly enjoyed it. Unlike anything else, writing allowed me to heal, self-reflect, and continuously improve. It has seen me form multiple friendships and earn passive income. Most importantly, it forced me to become a better person.

If you write, chances are you know what I’m referring to. If you don’t, here’s why you should consider starting …

Regularly learn from failure — Failure is commonly considered a negative experience. However, it can be positive if you look to learn from it. This is especially true with writing, as each piece written provides stimulus for you to learn from.

By learning from each piece you write, you are continuously evolving and improving. Because regardless of whether a piece is a resounding success, each helps you grow individually and as a writer.

Keeps you humble — There is a unique joy that comes from finishing a piece of writing. Albeit short-lived, as once you’ve published, it’s time to start the next one. This is unique in the sense that you’re back to feeling like a beginner, where you’re exploring something new and looking for ways to piece it together.

Personally, I find this a constant reminder of the importance of staying a student. Where in trying to figure out the best way to portray my ideas, I’m regularly reminded there is always something to learn and perhaps a better way to do things.

We are all apprentices in a craft where no one ever becomes a master. — Ernest Hemingway

Builds patience and discipline — Sitting to write can be a gruelling task. You have various ideas you want to share, yet it seems everything else is a top priority. However, if you’re serious about writing, you know it must be done for no other reason than you have to. That the only way through is to write regardless of distractions and resistance.

While this is definitely a labour of love, reaching the publishing stage requires patience and discipline. But if you’re able to push through while trusting your abilities, your writing will soon take shape the way you envisioned.

That’s a secret real writers know that wannabe writers don’t, and that secret is this; it’s not the writing part that’s hard. What’s hard is sitting down to write. What keeps us from sitting down is resistance. — Steven Pressfield

Helps shape your voice — Before writing, I didn’t know who I was or what I stood for. While I spent years immersed in self-development searching for answers, it wasn’t until I started writing that I was able to clarify who I wanted to be. Also, the values, thoughts and actions required for me to become that.

While it didn’t seem like much initially, regularly writing provided space for me to self-reflect and converse with myself. It allowed me to question my beliefs, reflect on past experiences and consider various thoughts and opinions — all of which allowed me to shape my voice and identity.

In conclusion, while writing isn’t for those who bore easily ... It is for you, if you want to become a better person. Consistently writing, self-reflecting and sharing your words allows you to regularly learn from failure, build patience and discipline and helps you share your voice — all whilst keeping you humble.

Because, whether confined to your journal or shared with the world, writing forces you to think, reflect and clarify your thoughts and emotions. All of which ultimately helps you become a better person.


Tahlia X

Now, I want to hear from you ... Do you write? If you do, how has it helped you? Let me know in the comments below.